Post by Mandi on Sept 14, 2006 10:02:13 GMT -5
This is a post I made over a year ago in another forum. I wrote it while corresponding with a fellow Epi friend. I got a lot of responses on it over there, so I thought I'd share for anyone new coming in. ;D
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In actuality, I don't fear having Epilepsy. If that is my card in life for right now, then I know that I have it for a reason. It is here to teach me something. I already know that there will be good days and bad days because I have had them. Sure it's scary, sure it makes me mad, sure I wish it weren't me. But the fact is, it is, it does, and it most definitely is me.
I somewhat agree with looking at Epilepsy like a child, but probably in a different fashion. I think in some weird, twisted, messed up way, it is a gift. It IS here to teach me who I am, how strong I am, and what I truly want. Today, I don't consider it a burden, but that doesn't mean I'll feel the same way tomorrow. Luckily, my moods change often.
I don't consider myself defined by my Epilepsy. I also don't define myself as Anxious or Depressed. I don't define myself by my skin being too pale for my liking, or that my butt will always be the size of Georgia. I'm not defined by being a survivor of mental abuse, or a survivor of molestation. I don't want to later use it as an excuse, as I have done before with some of the previous. I do have an old soul, this I know for sure. I've been told this for years. I tend to learn things very early on with all of these "crisis" and know what I need to do with them. All of these things make up a part of who I am, sure. But they aren't WHOLLY Mandi.
Mandi is a young woman who grew up in a small town and loved the silence in the country, the simplicity of life. I love fireflies and wild daisies. Children touch my heart. I still cry every time I read To Kill a Mockingbird, and my favorite movie will endlessly be Sleeping Beauty. I have an undying love for gummy worms and my brothers. I am a writer, a poet, an artist. I am a student of life being taught by my Granny, the most beautiful human being anyone could ever meet. I am a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, a niece, a cousin... I am a friend. I am God's daughter, although I haven't always been the best one, and honestly had lost that path a while ago, and am just now finding my way back. Mandi loves to read because I crave knowledge in stories, in human nature. Mandi is strong, but I don't always give myself enough credit where that is concerned. I am opinionated and will argue my point into the ground, even if it's not right in others people's minds (and not always in mine), but I always stand up for what I believe in. Mandi has made mistakes, ones that have hurt those I love very badly, and I live with it everyday. But even in the bad things there are always lessons. I don't regret the bad, because that's where I've learned my most IMPORTANT lessons actually. Mandi knows with no doubt what unconditional love is. My list goes on and on, but one thing I am not. Mandi is NOT Epilepsy. Mandi is just a girl that happens to have it. Sure people around me that I love, and even people around me that I don't, know that I have it. But I would surely hope that isn't the first thing they see in me, so why should it be the first thing I see in myself?
This is not the first trial in my life, trust me on that one, and I'm sure as heck it won't be the last. I've learned not to dwell on the unimportant. There is gonna be a day when I really WANT to do something, and because of whatever the reason, I simply won't FEEL like doing it. Well, forget it, then I'll do it tomorrow. When I said that the seizures were like "little deaths", I didn't mean that I thought this was the end of my life. Far from it. I said little deaths because in a way, it IS like the physical act of dying, at least for me. I pass out cold, have the seizure, and wake up not knowing exactly what happened in the last 2 minutes. I know I had a seizure, I know I blacked out, but I don't know what ACTUALLY happened. I don't know what my body did, I didn't see the fear on the faces of my loved ones, I didn't experience that fear myself. I wasn't aware of what was happening. When people die, it's the same. I, however, have the GIFT of waking up, being scared for a few minutes, feeling like crud for awhile, comforting my friends or family, but then getting up and starting over. "Death", in the way I am meaning it, .... is not always a bad thing.
I do live my life, everyday. Some days I get a lot accomplished, others not so much. I put my time and energy in the things that matter the most at the moment, and the rest can wait. I have many dreams, and hopefully I will have enough belief in myself that they will all come true. The most important thing out of everything though ... out of going back to school, becoming a writer, curing my disorders, having all I've ever wanted..... out of all of that, the most important to me is simply being a good person. If I can go to the bathroom and brush my teeth at night and look in the mirror and smile because I know that I had a good day, and lived it right, well then I'm not doin too shabby.
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In actuality, I don't fear having Epilepsy. If that is my card in life for right now, then I know that I have it for a reason. It is here to teach me something. I already know that there will be good days and bad days because I have had them. Sure it's scary, sure it makes me mad, sure I wish it weren't me. But the fact is, it is, it does, and it most definitely is me.
I somewhat agree with looking at Epilepsy like a child, but probably in a different fashion. I think in some weird, twisted, messed up way, it is a gift. It IS here to teach me who I am, how strong I am, and what I truly want. Today, I don't consider it a burden, but that doesn't mean I'll feel the same way tomorrow. Luckily, my moods change often.
I don't consider myself defined by my Epilepsy. I also don't define myself as Anxious or Depressed. I don't define myself by my skin being too pale for my liking, or that my butt will always be the size of Georgia. I'm not defined by being a survivor of mental abuse, or a survivor of molestation. I don't want to later use it as an excuse, as I have done before with some of the previous. I do have an old soul, this I know for sure. I've been told this for years. I tend to learn things very early on with all of these "crisis" and know what I need to do with them. All of these things make up a part of who I am, sure. But they aren't WHOLLY Mandi.
Mandi is a young woman who grew up in a small town and loved the silence in the country, the simplicity of life. I love fireflies and wild daisies. Children touch my heart. I still cry every time I read To Kill a Mockingbird, and my favorite movie will endlessly be Sleeping Beauty. I have an undying love for gummy worms and my brothers. I am a writer, a poet, an artist. I am a student of life being taught by my Granny, the most beautiful human being anyone could ever meet. I am a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, a niece, a cousin... I am a friend. I am God's daughter, although I haven't always been the best one, and honestly had lost that path a while ago, and am just now finding my way back. Mandi loves to read because I crave knowledge in stories, in human nature. Mandi is strong, but I don't always give myself enough credit where that is concerned. I am opinionated and will argue my point into the ground, even if it's not right in others people's minds (and not always in mine), but I always stand up for what I believe in. Mandi has made mistakes, ones that have hurt those I love very badly, and I live with it everyday. But even in the bad things there are always lessons. I don't regret the bad, because that's where I've learned my most IMPORTANT lessons actually. Mandi knows with no doubt what unconditional love is. My list goes on and on, but one thing I am not. Mandi is NOT Epilepsy. Mandi is just a girl that happens to have it. Sure people around me that I love, and even people around me that I don't, know that I have it. But I would surely hope that isn't the first thing they see in me, so why should it be the first thing I see in myself?
This is not the first trial in my life, trust me on that one, and I'm sure as heck it won't be the last. I've learned not to dwell on the unimportant. There is gonna be a day when I really WANT to do something, and because of whatever the reason, I simply won't FEEL like doing it. Well, forget it, then I'll do it tomorrow. When I said that the seizures were like "little deaths", I didn't mean that I thought this was the end of my life. Far from it. I said little deaths because in a way, it IS like the physical act of dying, at least for me. I pass out cold, have the seizure, and wake up not knowing exactly what happened in the last 2 minutes. I know I had a seizure, I know I blacked out, but I don't know what ACTUALLY happened. I don't know what my body did, I didn't see the fear on the faces of my loved ones, I didn't experience that fear myself. I wasn't aware of what was happening. When people die, it's the same. I, however, have the GIFT of waking up, being scared for a few minutes, feeling like crud for awhile, comforting my friends or family, but then getting up and starting over. "Death", in the way I am meaning it, .... is not always a bad thing.
I do live my life, everyday. Some days I get a lot accomplished, others not so much. I put my time and energy in the things that matter the most at the moment, and the rest can wait. I have many dreams, and hopefully I will have enough belief in myself that they will all come true. The most important thing out of everything though ... out of going back to school, becoming a writer, curing my disorders, having all I've ever wanted..... out of all of that, the most important to me is simply being a good person. If I can go to the bathroom and brush my teeth at night and look in the mirror and smile because I know that I had a good day, and lived it right, well then I'm not doin too shabby.